HOW TO ASK

Asking is an art, so if you want to get the right answers, you must learn to ask the right questions and in the right way.  Here are four ways to ensure that your asking gets the right results.

1. ASK CLEARLY

Be precise and think clearly. You can use a notepad to design words that have the greatest impact. Words are powerful so choose them carefully. Being incoherent won’t serve you well.

2. ASK WITH CONFIDENCE

 After you figure out what you want to ask for, do it with certainty, boldness and confidence. This does not mean brash, arrogant or conceited. Confidence can be strength, but to the people you are asking, it’s visible. The only negative thing that can happen is that your request may be denied. Does this put you in a worse position then before? Of course not. It just means that this particular route to getting results is closed. So look for another one.

3. ASK CONSISTENTLY

Some people fold up the tent after making one timid request. They quit too soon. If you want to unearth the true riches in life, you’ll need to do a lot of asking. Treat it like a game; keep asking until you find the answers. In sales there are usually four or five ‘’NO’s before you get a ‘’YES.’’

4. ASK SINCERELY

When you really need help, people will respond. Sincerity requires being real. It means dropping the image façade and showing a willingness to be vulnerable. Tell it the way it is, lumps and all. Don’t worry if your presentation isn’t perfect; ask from your heart. Keep it simple and people will open up to you. Your request will be favoured if you can clearly show that you have put in a lot of effort. People are more likely to give you a helping hand when you ask for support.

There are many ways to ask, learn all of them.

By Gabriel Odang